Monday, May 21, 2007

Cassie writes:

My husband and I just bought our first house, and our neighbors are the WORST. The woman next door runs a day care, and not a licensed one. The children are HORRIBLE. It seems to me they are forced to stay outside all day. I once saw one of the youngest girls go into the house and heard someone inside yelling and she came back outside crying.

Our houses are both close to the property line, their car-port and part of their house is right on the property line. There is a strip of yard about 4 ft wide and 8ft long that belongs to us, and the children play on it. It wouldn't be a big deal except the children scream and hit the side of our house with objects (balls, wooden boards, etc.). The boys even drop their pants right outside our window and pee on our yard. All the grass in that area is now dead.

They leave trash in the yard, and we will find items like childrens clothing in our bushes. If they are outside playing when a friend or family member comes to our house, the children yell at them, and cuss at them while they are on my front porch waiting for me to open the door. They are loud, rude, and unsanitary.

I have a 4 month old daughter and I cant even put her in her room for naps during the day because they are so loud. I just don't know what to do. This is supposed to be a happy time for our new family. Our house is very nice, new siding, new roof, etc. The house next door looks like it is about to be condemed.

Once I did talk with the woman next door and she said she understood. She made the children pick up all the trash but that isn't good enough damn it! All our grass is gone on that side of the house and I still can't put my daughter in HER ROOM for naps. I can not handle those little boys pissing in the yard and on our house!

I'm not sure what to do now, I was thinking I could call SRS on the woman (and she would deserve it too, there are children out there in diapers with absolutly no supervision, except some older children that are mean to them and hit them constantly). If I could find out that they rent that house I could try to get them evicted but if they own the house, I just dont know what I am going to do. I fear calling the police becasue if they don't do anything it could just cause the children to destroy more of our property and be even louder.

Finally this tops the cake... Earlier I looked out and seen a cross dressing black man pushing a grocery cart full of trash up the ally and into their house with it! WHAT THE FUCK!!??? Please do you have any advice for me? I would be forever grateful.

Ca1v1n replies:

No doubt you have quite a situation on your hands. Little can be done about the noise (unless you can get the daycare completely shut down but as you mentioned that could backfire and make the situation worse). I'm not sure about the laws where you live but in Ontario (Canada) a daycare with up to 5 children can be run without any license from any residence.

At least the trash is picked up. Now as they say, good fences make good neighbours. Your best bet may be to now put up something (chain link may be ugly but its cheap and you can get it done in a weekend).


Anonymous said...

Trust me, put a fence up, and make sure it is high enough that they can't climb over. I suggest an iron fence with pointy spikes on the top and a lock on the entry gate. It will be a little pricey and an eyesore, but believe me it will be worth the money spent. I have similar neighbors from hell and the fence kept me out of jail, because I was on the verge of violence. One last tidbit of advice, when you put in the fence the neighbors will go out of their way to toss toys and crap in your yard to get your attention and annoy you into returning the items. Ignore them and do not look out your window, go out or return anything. Wait until the middle of the night and then grab the items and dispose of them later. It will eventually stop. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

Not a "cross-dressing black man" with a shopping cart! Does he actually do something wrong or are you just appalled that a "cross-dressing black man" entered your line of site?

Yes your neighbours are bad but what does a "cross-dressing black man" have to do with anything other than bigotry?

Anonymous said...

Wait a minute. You're a new mother yourself, so surely you have some caring instinct for children. I can't believe you're spending all your time bitching about your personal inconvenience when it is clear from your description that there is obvious child abuse and neglect going on next door. Why haven't you called Child Services? How can you be so unbelieveably self-centered when these children are suffering? Shame on you.

Anonymous said...

I'm having a similar problem with a neighbor's foster children peeing in the yard, damaging my property, taking pictures of my family through our windows and having violent outbursts that require frequent police intervention...yadda, yadda, yadda. You can do a search under Children & Family Services or just look for the phone number in the phone book, but you need to call the ABUSE HOTLINE. It doesn't matter whether these are children being cared for on this property (as in a childcare operation), their children or foster children, abuse is abuse and they will be checked out in accordance with the law. You can either report them anonymously or you can use your name which should entitle you to receive a report on what they found. Of course, you are dealing with a government entity and you don't always get the results that you're looking for, but those reports stay in the system forever and I would think that if they got enough of them, it would warrant serious inquiries and action.

Anonymous said...

Put an electric fence where the kids pee. It'll be the last time that happens.

Anonymous said...

I so feel for you. I too have white trash neighbors who do not know how to respect their nighbors or their own property. In they summer they let weeds grow past my fence and up over my head. they are relentless with their broke down cars and trailers and there loud annoying children and dogs who they let run wild. I understand how frunsturating it can be.